Single and Stuck

I used to be stuck on an escalator. Yes, an escalator.

Here are some folks who experienced the same thing…

Okay, so the escalator was allegorical (although it is plausible that I would figure out a way to get stuck on one literally). The point is, I have spent most of my life waiting for the next chapter- the next big thing. I liked high school all right, but I knew I wasn’t really living until I played ball in college. So that is what I was waiting for. When I got to college, something funny happened, though. I liked college, but I knew I wasn’t really living until I got a career. So that is what I was waiting for.

 Well now I have a career. And as soon as the “looking for a job” anxiety subsided, it seemed a new form of anxiety began knocking on my heart. It said, “Jordan, you aren’t really living until you are married.”

I blame the Facebook world for deciding the most exciting articles to post all had to do with “the right age” to marry. Because there is obviously one formula, right?

Pretty soon, I got sick of the topic, though. My Facebook feed began annoying me. So for the first time ever, I said "adios" to my anxiety.

Because I’m living NOW. 

And I love now. 

I’m 23 and single.

And I’m done waiting for this escalator to move.

I’m getting off. 

Unlike a lot of women my age, I don’t feel like my singleness is a disease. I actually feel like I have quite a blessing.

When I chose to step off the escalator and embrace life NOW, incredible things began happening and I was able to appreciate them unlike ever before.

I have built amazing friendships in my singleness. I have joined an incredible church in my singleness. I have traveled many weekends in my singleness. I have found a job that I love in my singleness. I have learned to horribly play the guitar in my singleness. I have even learned I like to be geeky and blog in my singleness.

Because life is now.

And I’m not waiting on the next big thing anymore.

Will I be joyful when God brings the next chapter?

 Of course.

But HE gets to turn the page when He wants to. Until then, I’m going to enjoy this chapter.

And if He brings marriage, then awesome. A new blessing to embrace.

 So if you are like me, and single, no matter your age, don’t believe the lie that you aren’t living yet. Or if you are married and you don’t have children yet, don’t believe you aren’t living. Let’s stop waiting on the next big thing, and pursue the Lord now. Pursue a rich life now.

Some marry at 17 and some marry at 37. Some don’t at all.

There isn’t one “right age", but there is one right mindset that we are called to in Christ. We are called to be content in all situations, trusting the Lord fully (Philippians 4:12).

He is faithful to turn the page when the time is right. 

Any season can be pretty incredible when our trust in the Lord and not the situation we are in.

You’re only stuck if you want to be.

Get off the escalator.